Maybe I just had more friends (than Naomi Wolf) who had kids before me and let me know what to expect. I knew about the breakthrough bleeding, and the mucus plug and that they wouldn’t let you leave the hospital until you pooped. These are all unpleasant things, but I was warned.
The other day I posted something on how I wasn’t in any of our vacation pictures. Besides the comments that you can read, I got three or four e-mails from other Moms that all felt the same way. In fact, except for Erin, every mother I talked to felt the same way. Read these:
I have hundreds of photos WITHOUT ME from all of our vacations and trips.
It is infuriating, but I’ve sort of learned to deal with it. One of the things I do is I INSIST that my hubby take my picture sometimes with the kids. I try for at least one or two shots per roll – and almost every other picture is of them with daddy or on their own. I also let any Disney or other sort of “staff photographer” person take a family picture and I always buy it wherever we are, regardless of how good it is.
It is my record that I was there.
Annoying, isn’t it?
I sent my URL to an online friend, and all she said was, “Where are YOU?”
She saw all these pictures of my family but none of me. I said, “Umm … behind the camera?” 😉 I didn’t get a picture of me with both girls until they were 6 months old (not counting a picture taken by a nurse in the NICU).
I wonder why this never came up in conversations before? I was told that I would never get to go to the bathroom alone, I was warned about false positives on AFP tests, we discussed horrible bathroom problems associated with pregnancy, people told me how they developed unusual attachments to their obstetrician – when I found out I was pregnant with twins, I was even told about one twin fetus absorbing the other twin fetus!
So, why didn’t we talk about the picture thing? Why do we feel comfortable talking about hemorrhoids, but not comfortable admitting that we feel like we don’t count as individuals anymore, because no one is taking our picture? I guess it is because it sound so selfish and unreasonable when you say it out loud. It also sounds unreasonable to ask your pets not to touch you for 5 minutes, but we talked about that.
What else aren’t we talking about?