Comments on: Like Mother Like Son http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/ That's right. You heard me. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:55:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: joyce http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5830 joyce Sat, 21 Oct 2006 08:59:16 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5830 HI all you have no idea who I am. I am a nurse working a night duty in the community watching over a little boy. I was reading your advice and comments on biting and I know for some its really serious but at 5 in the morning, I thank you for the good laugh you gave. HI all
you have no idea who I am. I am a nurse working a night duty in the community watching over a little boy. I was reading your advice and comments on biting and I know for some its really serious but at 5 in the morning, I thank you for the good laugh you gave.

]]> By: Devra http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5829 Devra Sun, 15 Oct 2006 06:08:49 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5829 Sometimes kids bite because other kids can't understand them when they speak to them. But if Ian's words are understood by his teacher and classmates, let us move on to other ideas... What about getting Ian a rubber bone he can bring to school? Seriously. I know it sounds weird, but some biters lose interest when the biting is "legalized and regulated". Also, ask for a detailed description in writing from the preschool teacher as to what is going on in the room right before, during and after Ian chomps. This way you may be able to determine if there is some kind of provocation, frustration or ,as someone else said, a lack of supervision going on in the classroom. Keep in mind too that if Ian is biting the Alpha Male in the room, nature will *correct* itself and Ian may be on the receiving end of a chomp soon. Which actually may take care of the problem. Let me know if you need more ideas. I just got back in town. Sometimes kids bite because other kids can’t understand them when they speak to them. But if Ian’s words are understood by his teacher and classmates, let us move on to other ideas…

What about getting Ian a rubber bone he can bring to school? Seriously. I know it sounds weird, but some biters lose interest when the biting is “legalized and regulated”.

Also, ask for a detailed description in writing from the preschool teacher as to what is going on in the room right before, during and after Ian chomps. This way you may be able to determine if there is some kind of provocation, frustration or ,as someone else said, a lack of supervision going on in the classroom.

Keep in mind too that if Ian is biting the Alpha Male in the room, nature will *correct* itself and Ian may be on the receiving end of a chomp soon. Which actually may take care of the problem.

Let me know if you need more ideas. I just got back in town.

]]> By: Christine http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5828 Christine Fri, 13 Oct 2006 17:33:56 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5828 My twins were biters too. So you'd think I'd have some advice on the matter. But you'd be wrong. :) I considered the biting them thing, but they were biting each other so what difference would it have made if I bit them. They would have just thought it was a game and continued on. I put soap in their mouths once. They didn't like it, but it did nothing to deter them. I even tried putting a little vinegar in their mouths. That worked a little. If they looked like they were going in for a bite I'd say, "Do you want vinegar?" and they'd stop...for a few minutes. But really the only thing that worked was time. They eventually grew out of it. My twins were biters too. So you’d think I’d have some advice on the matter. But you’d be wrong. :) I considered the biting them thing, but they were biting each other so what difference would it have made if I bit them. They would have just thought it was a game and continued on. I put soap in their mouths once. They didn’t like it, but it did nothing to deter them. I even tried putting a little vinegar in their mouths. That worked a little. If they looked like they were going in for a bite I’d say, “Do you want vinegar?” and they’d stop…for a few minutes. But really the only thing that worked was time. They eventually grew out of it.

]]> By: CroutonBoy http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5827 CroutonBoy Fri, 13 Oct 2006 15:55:53 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5827 As long as the kids aren't turning into zombies as a result I think everything is fine. If you're really worried, you can always recommend people bathe in Tabasco or Deep-Woods Off...that should prevent biting As long as the kids aren’t turning into zombies as a result I think everything is fine. If you’re really worried, you can always recommend people bathe in Tabasco or Deep-Woods Off…that should prevent biting

]]> By: Andie D. http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5826 Andie D. Fri, 13 Oct 2006 06:11:28 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5826 I don't have any sage advice here. All I know is that my son was bitten twice by the same kid, and I was PISSED. But honestly, I was also relieved as hell that my kid wasn't the biter. Until he became the biter. Because they do. It's like vampirism. I don’t have any sage advice here. All I know is that my son was bitten twice by the same kid, and I was PISSED. But honestly, I was also relieved as hell that my kid wasn’t the biter.

Until he became the biter. Because they do. It’s like vampirism.

]]> By: Amy http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5825 Amy Fri, 13 Oct 2006 01:39:50 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5825 I JUST wrote a post about this that I am editing to put up. Brayden has been the "victim" of a biter 6 times--same kid bit Baylee once and their cousin 4 times. In two weeks. With bruises and skin broken. With only 5 children in the nursery, I was not happy. Sorry--you other parents can flame me if you want, but I felt it was a lack of supervision. I was very, very reluctant to complain and only did so when they had to call me twice within 15 minutes to tell me he had been bitten. I was so hesitant because I am extremely aware that it could be my kid biting tomorrow. However, I felt unless I said something, it would just continue and truthfully, I was sick of seeing him come home with huge, teeth-shaped bruises on his back. Ever the realist though, I know it is very hard to punish a young child for this behavior because they just don't understand. So, I really don't know what the answer is. My main goal was getting the daycare to increase the supervision of the biter. I know several of my friends' kids who have been evicted from daycare when the biting didn't cease. I JUST wrote a post about this that I am editing to put up. Brayden has been the “victim” of a biter 6 times–same kid bit Baylee once and their cousin 4 times. In two weeks. With bruises and skin broken. With only 5 children in the nursery, I was not happy. Sorry–you other parents can flame me if you want, but I felt it was a lack of supervision. I was very, very reluctant to complain and only did so when they had to call me twice within 15 minutes to tell me he had been bitten. I was so hesitant because I am extremely aware that it could be my kid biting tomorrow. However, I felt unless I said something, it would just continue and truthfully, I was sick of seeing him come home with huge, teeth-shaped bruises on his back. Ever the realist though, I know it is very hard to punish a young child for this behavior because they just don’t understand. So, I really don’t know what the answer is. My main goal was getting the daycare to increase the supervision of the biter. I know several of my friends’ kids who have been evicted from daycare when the biting didn’t cease.

]]> By: ahlem http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5824 ahlem Fri, 13 Oct 2006 01:31:02 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5824 Sarah, Lucas was repeatedly bitten by this tiny (half his size ) adorable girl. Twice, she cut thru his skin pretty deep and Lucas had to take antibiotics. I wasn't too happy about the lack of supervision. I wasn't angry at the pretty girl. I always tried to tell the mother that I wasn't upset with her. She felt horrible though, I could tell. The funny thing is, Lucas loves her. They still are best friends. I think that is why she bites him. They want the same toy, or book. Good luck. Sarah, Lucas was repeatedly bitten by this tiny (half his size ) adorable girl. Twice, she cut thru his skin pretty deep and Lucas had to take antibiotics.
I wasn’t too happy about the lack of supervision. I wasn’t angry at the pretty girl. I always tried to tell the mother that I wasn’t upset with her. She felt horrible though, I could tell. The funny thing is, Lucas loves her. They still are best friends. I think that is why she bites him. They want the same toy, or book.
Good luck.

]]> By: theotherbear http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5823 theotherbear Thu, 12 Oct 2006 22:54:43 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5823 My cousin's kids went to a preschool where they had alot of media attention for trying to kick a biter out of the school. You see, the child was HIV+, and a bad biter - many times a day. The media were calling them mean for kicking this poor sick child out of preschool. I'd do the same for my child. My cousin’s kids went to a preschool where they had alot of media attention for trying to kick a biter out of the school. You see, the child was HIV+, and a bad biter – many times a day. The media were calling them mean for kicking this poor sick child out of preschool. I’d do the same for my child.

]]> By: QofS http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5822 QofS Thu, 12 Oct 2006 20:55:55 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5822 We went through this too. It's embarassing when they bite other kids, but it's just part of the whole thing. Some do it, some don't. Jack got into trouble when he bit and he has been bitten as well. They'll be over it by Spring. He just needs to get in trouble when it happens, and while you can talk about it later, you can't really punish after. They don't get it. We went through this too. It’s embarassing when they bite other kids, but it’s just part of the whole thing. Some do it, some don’t. Jack got into trouble when he bit and he has been bitten as well.

They’ll be over it by Spring. He just needs to get in trouble when it happens, and while you can talk about it later, you can’t really punish after. They don’t get it.

]]> By: How About Two? http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/comment-page-1/#comment-5821 How About Two? Thu, 12 Oct 2006 20:37:15 +0000 http://sarahandthegoonsquad.com/2006/10/12/like-mother-like-son/#comment-5821 Gunslinger, recently turned two, had a biting issue at daycare. I think perhaps it was my fault. I love to play like I'm eating his arm, leg, belly, whatever and he would giggle hysterically. In my defense, I was his babysitter for a few months when he first moved here and I would do anything to stop a tantrum (I'm more jaded than that now). I got a 'talking to' by Gunslinger's mom, The VP. Gunslinger, recently turned two, had a biting issue at daycare. I think perhaps it was my fault.

I love to play like I’m eating his arm, leg, belly, whatever and he would giggle hysterically.

In my defense, I was his babysitter for a few months when he first moved here and I would do anything to stop a tantrum (I’m more jaded than that now).

I got a ‘talking to’ by Gunslinger’s mom, The VP.

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