Have you guys read “The White Trash Mom Handbook”? (if you can memorize a lot of words in a row the full title is The White Trash Mom Handbook: Embrace Your Inner Trailerpark, Forget Perfection, Resist Assimilation into the PTA, Stay Sane, and Keep Your Sense of Humor). I just finished reading it yesterday.
I was going to write a big old review here since I am supposed to be participating in the SV Moms Book Club today but three things happened.
1) I started feeling funny about it since the author, Michelle Lamar, is a friend. (Not that I won’t pimp my friends books, I totally will, but since you may or may not have seen me hanging out with Michelle at BlogHer I thought it would look suspicious.)
2) My stupid router went nuts. I couldn’t get online without having to refresh my ip address every three minutes. After about four hours I decided to move the bookshelf in Ian’s room (the former office that has no computer in it – but has the router that controls the internet for my entire house) while he was sleeping and I unplugged the damn thing right from the wall. Then I plugged it back in.
As you can see, it worked.
3) One section of the book really stuck with me and I want to just talk about that.
Michelle has a section on finding other White Trash moms. Now, keep in mind that she isn’t necessarily talking about Brandine. When Michelle says White Trash Mom she just means someone who doesn’t take herself too seriously, a mom that admits she lets her kids watch tv and eat twinkies. A mom that doesn’t claim to be able to work full time, make healthy dinners from scratch every night, volunteer for the homeless shelter and still make it to every soccer game while staying sane.
Moms like us.
She gives a couple examples about how to find other moms at school that might be like minded. (You don’t want to accidentally hook up with one of those perfect moms. Michelle calls them the Muffia. Sure they are the mean girls, but never underestimate the likelihood that one of those women will snap and go postal at Chuck E. Cheese one day. God knows that I fell like killing people every time I go there.) Michelle says to pay attention to the mom’s eyes and listen for a good laugh, but the most important tip is The Lunch or Coffee Test. She says “You can tell a lot about a person by how they treat a waitress or the guy behind the Starbucks counter”.
Isn’t that the truth?
Did you ever notice that people who leave small tips tend to be small minded? People that treat servers/clerks like shit tend to be shitty people themselves. This is also a fabulous dating tip. If you are on a date and the other person is rude to your server, they will be rude to you. In addition, someone will probably spit in your food.
I feel like a wrote a lot to get to this one single point, but it is an important point. Grown-ups know that they should use their manners. I am always amazed when someone who seems normal will bark at a bartender or someone working the drive through.
Here comes a quick rant: Why don’t people say please and thank you when they are in restaurants? Why would you says “Yeah, I’ll have the burger” when you could just as easily say “May I please have a hamburger?” Is that what you teach your kids at home? When someone brings you food or refills your drink say thank you. No, I’ve never worked in the food service industry. It just seems like common sense. They are called manners, people. Use them.
Okay. I’m done. All I’m saying is that a good way to find a good friend is to look for someone who treats other people the way you want to be treated, and Michelle Lamar hit the nail on the head with this one.
The White Trash Mom Handbook is filled with gems like these. It also made me laugh out loud more than once. You know how I love that.
Maybe tomorrow I’ll rant on the section about being forced to “volunteer” at your kid’s school.