I say “no” a lot.
I have two four year olds. They ask to eat M & M’s for breakfast. They want to stay home from school to play video games. The enjoy playing on the stairs.
I have to say no a lot.
Last night Devra gave a talk at my preschool. I’ve known Devra for a long time now and I have heard her give several presentations on Mommy Guilt. I’ve read the book. This is not new information for me.
Every time I hear Devra give a talk I get something new out of it. Last night it was “Get used to saying “yes” more often.
It was just good timing. I’ve been working from home for a while now. The kids just came off of Spring Break and into a long weekend because of parent/teacher conferences. And I have been saying no even more than usual.
The other day in the car we were talking about what it was going to be like when they grew up.
Claudia said “When I’m a Mom I am going to say ‘Hold on a minute’ when I am working.”
It breaks my heart because I always tell them “hold on” and “in a couple of minutes” and “I’m working” and “no”.
So today I practiced saying “yes”.
When we went to the mall to get my contacts and they wanted to play in the play area I said “yes”. When we stopped at K-Mart to get something that the cats could scratch (I’m sick of telling the cats no too.) and they wanted to ride on the stupid nonsense .50 cent merry-go-round in front of the store I said “yes”. When they wanted to use the scanners at Giant I said “yes”. When they asked if they could get bubbles I said “yes”.
Sure, our chores took us an extra hour, but the grocery shopping was actually kind of fun and I only ended up spending about an extra $1.50 on the day.
Yes, I ended up being crunched for time once we got home but it was worth it.
When I asked my children what they were going to tell Daddy we did today when he got home from work Claudia said “I got to ride the nonsense elephant with a hat in front of K-Mart.”
And as ridiculous as it sounds, at least she doesn’t have to tell him we did nothing. Again.
Because I said “yes”.